"Not "In The Market"

Yesterday, a well-meaning friend tried to "hook me up" with a guy she felt would be "a good match" for me. He's "Christian," touts himself as "evolved" and "a good catch" for "the right woman." I'm not sure how it was initiated; whether he saw my profile and asked the friend to put in a good word, or the friend initiated the matchmaking. At any rate, the man's looking for "a wife." The friend thought I'd be a good candidate for him.

I got the feeling that the friend thought I was in the market for a man. I am not. I don't pursue men. I remember 2 times that I pursued a male, and they were both when I was in college. Quite a while ago. I also don't pursue friends. These types of connections are sacred unions; I don't take friends or partner relationships lightly. I strongly feel mutual interest comes through DIVINE INTERVENTION. Forced unions have a false foundation. No "glue."

As much as my friend thought I'd be impressed by the guy's profile that was forwarded for me to read, I was not. I don't identify with any religion. This person projects himself as a devout Christian. But more significantly, I'm very leery of anyone who is intent on PURSUING someone. That's A LOT OF ENERGY to be projecting OUTSIDE OF SELF. Seems his consciousness would serve to help him realize no matter how much he tries to make something happen, it's ONLY going to happen when - and IF it is meant to happen! Like my girl Veronica says, "What is yours will come to you; what you run after, you never get." That's pretty basic understanding.

Not to mention - I don't see myself involved with any man who's eating KFC, burgers, and milk products. Or, even a "vegetarian" on a heavy starch and soy diet. Levels of desperation such as his is typically fueled by a toxic diet such as I described. There can be no clarity; no HARMONY when the Body Temple is being contaminated with Lactic, Uric, and Carbonic Acid. It wreaks havoc on the nervous system; all the internal organs. I seriously doubt he's taken the time to understand what's UNDERNEATH his desperation to have a wife.

As for the friend who was attempting to "hook us up," she seemed more of a "match" for him than I did. Like him, she's Christian, and she expressed that he has characteristics that SHE admires. So I asked her - "Why don't YOU pursue him? You seem to think he's a 'good catch', and you're both single, seems you two have much in common..." She replied, "He's out of my league..."

I have NO IDEA what she meant by that! He certainly wasn't in MY LEAGUE! From what I read, he might as well be from Mars and me from Venus!

My friend's feelings disturbed me. If he was such a "great catch" to her, why did he seem good enough for me - but not for her? Is she seeing herself "lesser" than him; "lesser" than me?

And - she seemed to feel that I was passing up something really "special"; kept egging me to at least communicate with him. I could see CLEARLY that he wasn't someone I could "cozy up to." But more significantly, my friend seemed to think that just because I am single, I necessarily want to have a man in my life. Goes with the training BOTH SEXES have been conditioned into; that a woman needs a man to be "complete." Men feel the same way - although this notion is a lot heavier on females. If a woman doesn't have a man - ESPECIALLY if she's older - she's a "spinster"; and "old maid." A man is an "eligible bachelor"; something more "distinguished." The very tone of that term implies he's "the prize."

It was as if my friend couldn't fathom I, a single woman, would pass up this "prize-of-a-man." But what my friend doesn't realize is, I have no objection to a union based on DIVINE INTERVENTION. Conversely, I felt DESPERATION coming from him - AND HER. I felt she was projecting negative reflections of how SHE FEELS about of being single and "alone." I don't feel "bad" about being either! I understand that I AM NOT IN CONTROL, and if it's meant for me to be with someone, I will know with absolutely certainty who that person is when - or IF - they come into my periphery. I'm in no rush to be involved with a man; shit - I've got a lot of re-acquainting with SELF to nurture!

Being single is a very special time; it's a time to get to know yourself like never before; without any "interjections" from someone outside of you. If one is willing to be truthful to Self about Self, it can be the Time of Your Life! I'm in Celebration. And these days, I'm much more astute when it comes to "premature interruptions" of "ME TIME." I know who I can hang with, and who can hang with me. Not many - even in the area of friends. It ain't about "quantity"; it's about QUALITY. I'd rather have a few TRUE FRIENDS than a room full of superficial "acquaintances" ANY DAY. I'm an a-typical Gemini, in that respect. I'm uncomfortable with "small talk." I'm really not all that "social." I prefer to be amongst people who have a mutual love and reverence for me. I can feel "hater energy" a mile away!

I really hope women will come to realize their power; that a man doesn't "complete" them. Men like the one my friend was trying to introduce me to need to understand they'll never find happiness in a woman, or any one or any thing else. Happiness IS. Life is what YOU make it; happiness cannot be achieved by going outside of yourself. No woman/man/house/car/clothes/amount of money will result in lasting fulfillment. The very fact that Life is Dynamic is indication that these things cannot sustain you. YOU sustain you. Fall in love with THAT.